A Possible AH-HA moment

I think I have mentioned before that I belong to the Yahoo Workaholics Group. There are no face to face meetings in my area and this group has been a great support. I have bene posting there a lot around the transition out of my current job and hte range of emotions I have been feeling. Today someone mentioned this

Maybe some of your Workaholism comes from approval addiction and a need to belong. Realizing that all rational thought indicate it's time to go, and then still feeling all those powerful emotions around leaving a sinking ship....I think you've wedged yourself between a rock and a hard place. Damned if you do, damned if you
don't.

I think he is onto something I do want approval but I get it. My husband could not accept me and love me any more than he does. My parents are always telling my how proud they are of me. So why don't I buy it?

Beacuse being successful and not being a failure is still tied up in all the wrong things for me. I think that might be a place I need to ask the group about again. Before I can change how I think about my fear of failing because it will leave me with a lack of approval, maybe I need to reowrk my paramater of what success is?